Serving You: from a late night bowl of cereal and netflix
Okay so we will start this blog off with a true story, something that happened to the Wunder Woman just yesterday!
offers a building that doesn’t look like it used to be an insane asylum but also offers a large parking lot for people with appointments! Crazy concept, I know, but the previous center in the MIDDLE of campus offered around five parking spots for the hundreds of people to be seen in the facility of which were taken by students late to class anyway and not actual appointment goers. But let’s get back to the story! Again, two destinations, both on campus, it’s a matter of stop signs before I get from Point A to Point B. I’m making my way and after the first few stop signs there is a car RIGHT behind me, I mean RIGHT behind me. Sort of annoying, just like hello what are you doing? So this car is literraly f o l l o w i n g me down the main drag and also happens to turn into the health center parking lot.
Me: “I guess this guy is late for his super important appointment! Jeezo, back off buddy!”.
So I park in the furthest row from the entrance of the building (because I’m not in such a hurry!). I go through the usual checklist in my mind: phone, wallet, water bottle, grab keys…. I look in my side mirror to see the same tailgating car stopped right behind me. Well that’s interesting…. It was obvious this person had something to say to me but at this point I have NO CLUE what about! Did I drop something back in the lab and he was being a good citizen? Did something fall off of my car? So I get out. And immediately get yelled at like I’m a six year old by a 30 something man with an obvious east coast accent driving a gray hybrid car (like he’s a super nice dude that cares about people and the environment). So he spews his initial line “you almost caused five accidents back there!!!!!!!!!!”.
1) Interesting that in my 3 stop signs I almost caused 5 accidents 2) there was zero honking? 3) To think I almost caused ALL of this chaos and I didn’t notice for one mili second? So the guy rants for his solid 30 seconds, something about left turns, and right-aways, and I don’t know, I tune out. Then he pauses, I come back to consciousness.
Me: Okay he must be done with his spiel. I let out a “mmmkay” and he huffs and puffs and speeds away (like the role model, excellent driver he is). After the guy drives away I begin to assess what has just happened and wish I could ask this road rage guy a series of follow-up questions. Was that what you needed, do you feel better now that you got to yell at someone? Would your life just not have gone on if you didn’t get the chance to tell everyone when they do something “wrong”?
I mean hopefully the dude feels better about himself, however I can’t imagine handling every small situation I run into in that way, that takes a LOT of effort!
Okay Katie so you were a dummie and may not have been paying the best attention and some dude having a bad day yelled at you, boo hoo. Well, I’m not really focused on me in this scenario but I honestly begin to feel bad for the road rage guy… how can his life be so miserable that he feels the need to take down other people on his way? And where I think road rage guy starts getting into trouble is when we analyze where he is allocating his energy to. We all get frustrated, we all get mad, we all get annoyed and if we allow ourselves to spend all of our energy on these negatives moments, the negatives become our lives. We get to choose what aspects of our day we would like to focus on and what pieces of our life we would like to spend energy on because trust me, we only have a limited amount!
Your life follows your attention. Wherever you look, you end up going.
— Martha Beck
So road rage guy finds pleasure in spending his energy shaming others and making sure everyone knows when he is frustrated. But sadly this becomes his life, a life full of amplifying, magnetizing and highlighting all of the shitty things that have gone on in his day! Knowing that the not so awesome stuff is going to happen no matter what may help us be less “surprised” when something is frustrating and doesn’t go our way. It’s a fact of life that we can NOT control. What we can control is what moments we allow to take our energy, what moments we allow to define our character and what moments we allow ourselves to highlight as a reflection of our lives and our inner self.
What are you spending your energy on?